2ND_Quarter_Week 3_Discussion (Commitment)

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1. Why is COMMITMENT important in relationships?

            As a person who has never been into a serious romantic relationship with someone, I’ve had my fair share of witnessing many lovers’ relationships end. Misunderstandings, drama, family, and social standings are usually the factors that led to these results, but the most common denominator of their end is the lack of commitment.

Commitment requires a person to give a huge part of their life to someone while fully trusting that the other person will do the same. Anything can change at any given moment, and one wrong move could literally throw away everything that you’ve worked hard for, so I can totally see why people are so afraid of it. Despite its hardships and risks, we can never deny the fact that love is never enough for a relationship to last. Commitment is the prerequisite of having a healthy and strong relationship as it strengthens the trust and connection between two lovers while they face the hurdles of their relationship together.

Of course, one-sided commitment is also just as bad as not having this attribute in the first place (sometimes, it can even be worse), and in fact, it cannot even be considered a relationship at all (it’s just torture). This is why having the same level of commitment is needed so that the couple will have the same standing, hence prolonging the maintenance of their healthy relationship.

2. What is "CLOSURE" in a relationship? Why is it important?

            Closure refers to when two ex-lovers come together to fully remove their remaining emotional attachment to one another by coming to terms with why they broke up in the first place. It is necessary so that the two of them will transition and move on from the devastation of their relationship’s end. It will serve as a soft cushion for the two of them so that they’ll be able to get over each other amicably.

Breaking up without loose ends is one of the most fulfilling and satisfying feelings in the world. It gives a sense of peace and harmony that can give the two people a chance to face each other once more, either as friends or as acquaintances.

            Without closure, unresolved feelings will bubble up in either one or both of them, making the breakup messy and confusing. This can greatly affect one’s self-esteem as they will be plagued with the vicious cycle of thoughts that it was their fault that the relationship ended. On the catastrophic end of the spectrum, it can also lead a person to become self-destructive, which ruins their chances of moving on and making new relationships.

3. If you were in a situation similar to the girl, how will you move on?

            Instead of deluding myself with the thought that the relationship would go back to how it was before, I will let go of my foolish hopes. I will accept the fact that he is no longer the man who once loved me. In doing so, I will come to terms that the relationship has no chance of continuation, and even if it did continue, things would never be the same.

He and I have already changed as separate people. By forcing the relationship to go on, I am only bringing myself up for a lifetime of pain and disappointment. I have already witnessed the tragedy that befell my parents, so why should I push myself to go through the same thing as them? Why would I want to be that woman who cries herself to sleep at night?

With these thoughts in hand, I will take this chance to self-reflect and go through the journey of self-rediscovery.